Therefore, in order to live correctly with people, you need to understand the difference between them, to understand how one person differs from another.

Family life.

Very often people, looking at each other, tend to think that they are the same, but in fact they are two different types of life. They think differently, look at the world differently, treat everything differently.

Socrates said very well about family life. He had a grumpy wife, and this helped him reach heights in philosophy. Based on his own experience, he advised one of his students: "Get married, my friend, for you will get a good wife, and you will know the highest happiness, and if you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher."

Our goal is to educate a person, give him a strong mind, which will help him to act correctly in all situations, help him make the right choice.

What is the mind.

In order to understand the difference in the functioning of the mind in a man and a woman, you must first say a few words about what the mind is.

What functions does the mind have? The Upanishads describe three main functions of the mind:

The first is called smriti-shakti — the ability to memorize;

The second is vicara-shakti - the ability to analyze, reflect, put on the shelves;

The third is viveka shakti - the ability to discriminate, the ability to draw conclusions after we have already analyzed. Viveka Shakti is the ability to understand that this is good and that is bad, that this is spirit, and this is matter, that this should be done, and this should not be done.

These are the three functions by which the mind directs human activity.

A person first remembers something, then analyzes, then draws conclusions and acts accordingly. As soon as a person forgets that he is a soul and that he must act as a soul, his mind immediately begins to collapse.

Sincerity and reason.

Confucius says that sincerity and reason are two inseparable things, and that sincerity comes from the fact that a person knows how to act, that is, it comes from reason. Then a person acts as one should act, behaves in accordance with reason.

Confucius says that either sincerity can come from reason, or reason can come from sincerity.

A person may have an innate understanding of good and evil, in past lives he understood what is good and what is bad. And then he acts sincerely.

But when this is not the case, then with his mind he must understand what is good and what is bad, then he needs to be explained, and he must reflect on this and must understand these things. And if he acts in accordance with this knowledge, he will be sincere.

In other words, you cannot be a sincere villain, you cannot be a sincere killer. Sincerity is about understanding what is good and what is bad and acting accordingly.

The difference in the psychology of men and women.

Love is the acquisition of wholeness.

There is a universal harmony of masculine and feminine both in space and in man.

Material energy is of a dual nature.

Each side of the human brain has its own unique properties and functions, while being part of the whole.

The left hemisphere is responsible for the logical, analytical, factual aspects of thinking and behavior.

The right manages intuition, creative activity, imagination, psyche and spiritual life of a person.

The characteristic features of the left cerebral hemisphere are usually called male, and the right one - female.

The left side of the brain mainly controls the daily activities of a person, his struggle for survival, which implies more active, extraverted male forms of thinking and behavior.

On the other hand, people with psychic abilities who practice meditation are more involved in the right hemisphere of the brain, representing the receptive, feminine aspects of the mind.

The human brain is bisexual, regardless of the sex of the organism itself, and the activity of both hemispheres is a necessary condition for the balance of the individual.

Moreover, inharmonious brain activity leads to an adverse effect on the planet itself. Our earth is a loving mother of all forms of physical life, suffering severely from an overabundance and abuse of male energy.

Left and right hemisphere properties.

The combination of the properties of both hemispheres forms a balanced human nature and is necessary for the proper functioning of such social structures as the family, organization, production unit and state.

Different people have different hemispheres, some have a more developed logical component, some have a more developed emotional component. That is, the left hemisphere is mainly responsible for the sphere of buddhi, the sphere of the mind, and the right hemisphere is responsible for the sphere of the mind, because emotions are one of the functions of the mind.

And when scientists began to analyze how the brain functions in men and women, they surprisingly discovered that the brain works in different ways.

For a man, either one hemisphere or the other works.

When the left is working for him, the right is inactive, but when the right is acting, the left is inactive.

And for a woman, both are constantly working. In women, both the right and left hemispheres are always active, they cannot turn off one of them.

This discovery has very interesting conclusions, it in itself means that both are both strength and weakness.

A man and a woman have different strengths and different weaknesses. Where a man is strong, a woman is weak, and vice versa, where a woman is strong, a man is weak.

Based on this, one can understand what functions he and she perform in the family and in society as a whole. The functions of these two species of life will also be completely different.

In other words, a man's strength lies in the fact that he can completely abstract himself from the situation. He can move away from the situation, even if it is very emotionally involving him. In the most emotionally tense situation, he is able to analyze, draw some conclusions, see what will be good, what is bad, what the consequences will be, choose the right direction of action.

But the weakness lies in the fact that when he switches to the emotional sphere, then his mind is completely turned off. This is the problem. When a man is completely carried away, when he is seized by lust, everything turns off for him completely, for him the end comes.

And you can see, for example, that in ordinary society, if men fall, then they go to the end, they go to the very bottom and nothing can stop them.

There are far fewer women who have reached the very limit. A woman has the ability to stop in time, she does not give in to the flow of her emotions.

Whereas a man can disappear if he fell into this trap, if he became weak at some point and became emotional. His mind turns off, his mind becomes the servant of the mind, and everything that his senses and mind command, he will justify as he pleases. And he will go somewhere and it is very difficult to stop him. He becomes completely unmanageable.

This can be seen from a man in love. He completely loses his head.

But a woman in love always thinks, she never completely loses her head.

One modern philosopher said that a man in love is like an hourglass - the fuller his heart, the empty his head. From there everything flows here.

Fulfilling other people's duties is very dangerous.

A man, when fulfilling other people's duties, does not receive emotional satisfaction.

Although he can do it well for a while, since he has no emotional satisfaction, at some point he may have an emotional breakdown.

And when this breakdown occurs, since he has not received satisfaction for a long time, his other hemisphere turns on. And this person is going to hell, he breaks down, and it is very difficult to stop him.

Education and upbringing should strengthen this strong side of a man, it should teach him to always control himself, always, in all situations, to understand what is good and what is bad, and never succumb to this impulse of feelings.

The woman has the opposite situation. Since a woman always has both hemispheres working, she always has a duality and this is her weakness.

On the one hand, her mind works, and she kind of listens to it. But, on the other hand, she cannot completely turn off emotions, so emotions constantly interfere with this mind, and they constantly conflict with each other.

Therefore, due to the fact that both of these components work at the same time, it is very difficult for a woman to make a choice, she is never sure exactly whether she made the right choice or the wrong one.

But, on the other hand, a woman's advantage lies in the fact that, nevertheless, even in the most emotionally intense situations, she never completely gives in to her feelings. And thanks to this ability of hers, she can help a man.

And in our Vaishnava history there are amazing examples of all this. Everyone remembers the story of Bilvamangala Thakur, who is a wonderful example of a person completely possessed by passion. He did not understand anything, did not see anything, in a terrible storm he ran to the woman he loved. Seeing nothing, thinking only about her, he grabbed onto a corpse of some kind to swim across the river, then he had to climb over the fence and he also grabbed onto something resembling a liana. As it turned out, it was a snake. He did not care at all, he did not think about any consequences, did not understand what he was doing, why he was doing it. This man was completely blinded by his desire and still broke through to her. But although this woman loved him too, she did not give in to the same impulse. She did not rush to him and shout: "Oh, you, my dear, beloved!" Instead, she just said: “Why are you stupid if you loved Krishna the same way!

This was the strength of this woman and at that moment she helped him. He immediately switched over, the other half of his brain began to work, and he said: "Thank you, goodbye, I went." As if nothing had happened, as if there had not been this terrible night, these adventures. As soon as the other half of the brain turned on, he said: "Everything is correct, you reason logically, Chintamani. Thank you for teaching me wisdom, I went." This is an example of how a woman can help a man.

This feature of a woman determines her maternal nature. Such constant involvement, on the one hand, of the mind, and on the other hand, of emotions, allows a woman to be a good mother. She loves her child, she constantly has these emotions, and at the same time her mind works, she acts in any situation.

The advantage of a woman is that she can make decisions in the sphere of emotions. Whereas a man in the sphere of emotions cannot make any decisions. And if he does, then the wrong decisions.

Therefore, a woman can create comfort. A man is not able to create coziness, because coziness is how to create a certain mood, a certain atmosphere, how to arrange things.

On the one hand, a woman's mind works, on the other, she understands how to do it. So she makes the right decisions and says, "The couch should be there!" And immediately everything changes, immediately a certain atmosphere is created. This is where women are strong, they have more developed taste.

Or take a situation where a child is crying. What will a man do? If he is attached, if his son is crying, he does not know at all what to do, he grabs him, rushes about, he does not know how to calm him down. If something happens to the child, the man loses his head. The woman knows exactly what to do. Her heart is there and her mind is there.

A man, if a child cries, either does not know what to do, or, if his left hemisphere turns on, he thinks: "Why is he crying and, in general, what does he have to do with me?" And then he screams, "Hey, your baby is crying! Take care of him."

Hence, accordingly, completely different spheres of activity, spheres of division of labor between men and women.

Women are very strong in the public, social sphere, in the area where you need to help, support, emotionally get involved in the situation and make the right choice. Therefore, the main goal, the main function of a woman in the Vedic culture is that a woman is the keeper of the home, the keeper of traditions and rituals.

Women in connection with this feature of their psychology are very attached to the ritual. And you can see that in traditional religions, most of the parishioners are women, mostly grandmothers go to church.

When religiosity disappears entirely from society, women continue to attend church according to tradition. They need traditions, they need rituals. Because a ritual is a certain form. And this certain external sequence of actions allows, as it were, to put the woman's mind in a certain framework.

Therefore a woman is called dharma-patni in Sanskrit. Dharma-patni literally means "the keeper of the dharma." And her role in union with a man is to put a man in his place when he forgets what to do and what not to do.

She reminds him: "Dharma lies in this, this is our tradition, we must do this, act in this way." A woman must protect a man from this lack of control, which is sometimes characteristic of men who have forgotten about their mind.

On the other hand, the husband in the Vedic tradition is called guru-pati, which literally means master-husband, spiritual master.

The husband's role in this union is to teach his wife. He gives her spiritual instructions, he teaches her that the mind speaks this way, the scriptures say this and that, you must do this and that in this situation.

He helps her protect herself from her own feelings, from this excessive emotional involvement, when she cannot abstract herself.

In this union, a woman likes to be behind someone, like behind a stone wall. The popular expression that a wife is behind her husband, like behind a stone wall, characterizes just that situation when a man's mind is really highly developed. He knows how to make decisions, what to do, what not to do, he makes these decisions, he makes choices. And the woman thinks, "Okay, he knows, he is my guru, he decided for me."

And according to this theory, a woman is very pleased when someone makes decisions for her, when she feels that a man has taken responsibility. Therefore, a man must develop a sense of responsibility that comes with reason. And in marriage, he must fulfill this very role.

Brahmacaris, old people, children, women and cows in Vedic society are always protected. These five categories of living entities should always be protected in good society.

The protection of the brahmacari is to create the conditions for the development of viveka shakti. They must have all the conditions so that they can learn, can develop their mind, can develop these qualities corresponding to reason, in particular the qualities of humility, can engage in appropriate activities and curb their mind.

The protection of women is that they need to be protected from their restless minds. From a mind that rushes between emotions and a mind that does not know what to do. They need to create this comfortable situation so that they know that it is good, but it is bad, that I am performing such and such a ritual, I am doing this, I am following the right path, my husband will take care of me, he is a great devotee of Krishna, he will return to Krishna, and I will follow him.

And when we understand the mutual strength emanating from such a union, when we better understand how the psychology of a man works, how the psychology of a woman works, then in the end we will learn to respect each other.

The meaning of the Vedic society and the whole varnasrama culture that we are talking about is to create a society of mutual respect. And respect is based on understanding what a person is strong and where he is weak.

If we very clearly and well understand that this is the strength of a person, and this is his weakness, then we will naturally have respect for him, we will be able to behave correctly with him.

Culture, in the end, should be manifested in the fact that a person develops respect, he understands and respects other people, understands the equality of everyone and everything.

Confucius concluded that people in antiquity (even he spoke of antiquity), who wanted to establish virtue, order in the whole society, in the kingdom, first of all, began to understand and establish order in their sphere, in their province.

Wishing to restore order in the provinces, they, first of all, tried to restore order in their family, and they did everything in accordance with this order.

Wanting to put things in order in their family, they started by putting things in order in themselves.

Trying to put things in order in themselves, they looked into their hearts and tried to cleanse it.

Wanting to cleanse their hearts, they tried to be sincere in their thoughts.

Wishing to become sincere in their thoughts, in their thoughts, they, first of all, tried to gain knowledge of what is good and what is bad.

And when their knowledge became deep and strong, then they began to understand the nature of things.

When they understood the nature of things, knowledge came to them, and their knowledge became complete.

When their knowledge became complete, their thoughts and thoughts became sincere.

When their thoughts became sincere, their hearts were purified.

When their hearts were purified, they acquired the appropriate qualities, they became decent people.

When they became decent people, peace and tranquility came in their families, and families came in order.

When their families were in order, then, accordingly, the provinces they ruled also came in order.

And when their provinces were in order, then, accordingly, the whole kingdom became calm and happy.

That is, this path to general prosperity begins with oneself. It begins with the fact that a person tries to comprehend something, to comprehend the nature of things, to comprehend the nature of spirit, to gain knowledge.

When he comprehends this, then, accordingly, his thoughts become pure, his heart is purified, this is manifested in his qualities.

When the qualities are manifested, then he will be able to lead a normal, happy family life. A happy family life puts everything else in order. But this is still a long way off. You need to start with understanding what knowledge is and what its essence is.

We often form our opinions or judgments about other people, practically without realizing it. There are people who understand this and, moreover, they like it, because this way they improve their self-esteem and feel more important. However, regardless of the reason, we have no right to judge anyone. Most people often do not notice their mistakes, instead they seek to find and point out the mistakes of others. Analyze the reasons below as to why you should get rid of this unpleasant habit (if you have one, of course).

1. Incomplete information

Before judging someone, make sure you know all the information about that person. Perhaps you are not aware of its history, problems and worries. Instead of jumping to conclusions, try to help the person or just leave them alone.

2. We are all different

If you really dislike something, well, others don't have to share your point of view. For example, you think tattoos are a terrible sight, so let this remain your personal opinion, you should not tell another person who loves them about it. If someone cannot get a diploma, this does not mean that he does not strive to study, maybe he simply does not have the means to pay for his education. We are all different, and we all have different life situations.

3. Nobody is perfect

Perfectionists tend to judge every person they come across on their journey. They do not admit their own mistakes, but they like to point out other people's shortcomings. It is very important to realize that no one is perfect, and we all make mistakes, and we do it always and constantly. Before criticizing someone's actions, consider whether those actions are actually harmful. Maybe other people have good motives for doing what they do.

4. Treat others as you would like them to treat you

Before making a value judgment to someone, put yourself in his or her place. We often judge others unfairly, but we hate it when people judge us. Your words and actions can ruin any relationship within minutes. But can you build trusting and human relationships in the same few minutes?

5. Tolerance

Tolerance or tolerance is especially needed in the modern world. People do so many not always reasonable actions and actions that it is sometimes very difficult to keep silent, especially when it is necessary. Train your tolerance. This will help you understand people better and judge them less. If you can't understand someone in any way, then just stop thinking about it. Focus on your own problems, not others.

6. Appearances are often deceiving

Don't judge by looks and never make fun of people. They may not be able to buy expensive clothes and lead a luxurious lifestyle, but they can do a lot of good deeds. Well, remember point 2: we are all different. Some people cannot buy the groceries they need, while others spend tons of money on things they don't need. Rich people tend to judge poor people, but they do not know, for example, how poor people help others without expecting anything in return.

7. You describe yourself

When you judge other people, you are not characterizing them, but yourself. Do you want people to think you are intolerant and unpleasant? Ask your family or friends what they think of you, and if they say that you often judge other people, then it might be time to stop being subjective.